He is 30, so a bit older. You definately make sense about just avoiding the ex-girlfriend relationship subject.
Once you know the answers, you can better assess how to deal with the situation. Annaliz Dear Eric, I feel like an idiot. about Tim. So in a span of 5 months from the first one I eneded up again pregnant, the 2nd confirming it was infact his shocked in disbelieve I my boyfriend still talks to his ex get into this situation when I was fighting with him and refusing him till he went to the doctors.
Save my name,and website in this browser for the next time I comment. We are definitely on the same. Ok, I understand that, he has children with this person. Jacquie I agree with Marguerite. My boyfriend is with me and loves me, not her.
Great article. There is only so much waiting for him to set the boundaries you can do. He believes in being in-love with one person but playing with others. If he resists, then you know he still hasn't moved on. J I have a similar situation. What are the specific behaviors on your partner's end that are making you feel uncomfortable? I just wish I could believe what he says and stop fretting whether or not he still has feelings for her :. While these are all legitimate fears, remember that they are your fears and therefore your responsibility in terms of handling them.
Fear that she might do something to screw up your relationship with him. It has put a wedge in our relationship. And i told him about it, i said why would d u talk to her and hide it from me u know?
Then, there is always a chance he wants to date her again. He would talk to her every so often and i asked hes thinking of seeing her in the states in 2 weeks. My boyfriend still talks to his ex gave him an out. His ex girlfriend comes Everytime when I'm around They play together in my presence like hugging each other in my presence His ex girlfriend calls him everyday And I have decided to break up with him It seems they still love and care for each other. I was going crazy. At the heart of the issue, this sort of thing stems from your own fears. Overall, I would say that people keeping in touch with an ex is normal.
Me Hi everyone! She got married already but I think she cheated on her now husband because that same month that she got married she was still talking to my boyfriend. I stopped trying to be perfect and control everything so I could feel OK.
I am dating a guy since almost an year. I left this relationship on a bad note and it took years before I would even consider getting into another one. He said he had wanted to stay friends. Hazel Well my fella who has been divorced over 12 months now, says he wants to remain friends with his ex-wife.
How to find out if he still has feelings for his ex – even if he doesn’t want to admit it
IE 11 is not supported. I have that in my life, so do plenty of others.
So I tried to get a handle on my problem with it. I am in the same boat, had the same feelings, and greatly appreciate some wisdom that I knew was there. But at the same time Eric comes from that clan of men who are also in need of some kind of validation from women who were in his past.
What should I do? He did not consider your feelings. Thank you for this reply. I smoke in the garage. The earlier you cut your loses the better chance you find the one who will respect and honor your love, trust, devotion and commitment and means what he says not what you want to hear and repeat offend you!
And he never told her. Arial If your boyfriend is still talking to his recent ex on a regular basis, especially if he my boyfriend still talks to his ex close enough to her to loan her money, then your gut instincts could very well be correct. I have a degree in Psychology and I've dedicated the last 20 years of my life to learning everything I can about human psychology and sharing what gets people out of struggling with life and into having the life they really want.
If you want to respond to me directly to my address, that is fine since this is a long message. Well my boyfriend was talking to his ex and i found out. Because those men are much more dangerous. You are making excuses for him.
When you enter a love-interest relationship, you should focus on that person. Frankly, people are going to do whatever they want to do anyway. Hazel Up date…Well I have had a terrible 2 months. And after i found the messages the first time and after he already said he stopped talking to her i found messages saying things like where are you i want to hang out with you…and then he admitted he met up with her for smoothies, and didnt tell me until i found tbe messages 4 days later.
Him: No, with her and I not speaking. He also said recently that he wants to see her more, start fresh. Do you know what to do when this happens?
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Jezebel What do you do when even you bringing her name up to discuss the issue makes him defensive? Would anyone feel differently if the ex was a friend with benefits.
I told my bf he told me he misses his mom. I could be just cleaning my room or walking the dog and I would have 15 calls when I returned.
1. her name comes up…a lot.
Recent Relationship Forum Activity Bf barely compliments me anymore…. Jessica I agree with this too. Granted, we need to be realistic about certain things. I really appreciate you taking the time to write this out for the ANewMode.
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He tells me this is a great relationship and he is very happy. Yet now that I'm part of his life, I have observe he was chatting with his ex every now and then. Yes, it's weird, especially if your relationship is new. I was scared and wish I had more faith in myself.
I regret it — it was destructive and never ever helped my relationship. In The Netherlands more than Connect with Tim:. My organizing principle would be whether or not any particular thing is good for the strength of our relationship… and unfortunately, any kind of ongoing relationship with another guy would sow seeds for weakening the relationship and must not be there in the relationship, just as it would be equally bad if the guy has ongoing relationships with other women in some capacity.
Even when we met he was even still seeing her! I want him to have friends, lol. He does these things because he knows you let him do it, just leave him. I also sent you this as an earlier today, so bit of a double up there. He ignores her messages when I'm there yet answers it when i don't notice.
Really dear Bubbles I will truly leave you now. I was starting a 3 year uni course and we spent an amazing summer together spoke all night he was all I ever wanted and needed in a person except I did have Babbage from my past but he made me see what caring for somone really is and how it should be, he made me a better person. Then you become the girl who put up with it.
However, Walsh noted that a guy who's still stuck on his ex might try to keep you from going to events or seeing people who also know his ex. This time I wanted to keep my baby. Eric Charles Sure, I agree with that. He told me they no longer keep in touch. Ali It seems the boyfriend is training his ex that her behaviors are acceptable to him. Anyway, I would love to get back with him and have been playing it cool this past year as he dated other women.
2. he still seems angry with her.
Do you have a tendency to be jealous in relationships? I can tell you that when I was on the receiving end of this sort of thing, I was not graceful about it. This would violate his privacy and could negatively impact the trust in your relationship. No, I did not seek it out to search for anything. If you have any evidence, you can bring this up. I asked if he pushed the subject. I have even notice that his ex was saying asking him if I don't know how to massage his back. Now that I think about it, had plenty of opportunities to tell me he was dating someone.